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Tuesday, February 4, 2014

30 Before 30

Exactly one month from today, I'll be 29. Twenty nine. Twenty... NINE! TWENTYFUCKINGNINE! The older you get, the faster the years seem to fly by... maybe this year, when I blow out the candles, I'll wish for 29 to crawl - that's my first instinct.
 
I have issues when it comes to milestone birthdays. When I turned 20, I cried because I wasn't a teenager anymore. When I turned 25, I had a near meltdown. Sometimes, I literally forget how old I am because I try not to remember. 
 
You can't ignore 29 though.
 
At first, I thought my issue with aging was because I didn't want to get "old." Then, the older I got (oh hey, irony!), the more I realized it was because I felt like I was the only one who wasn't where I thought I'd be by that point (although sometimes I actually consider that a blessing), and that I was going to get left behind.
 
Growing up is scary. It's not something that happens all at once. It's something that happens gradually over an extended period of time... every day of your life, really - because I like to believe we're always growing.
 
I think of my Dad, who died at 46... far too "young"... and the following quote comes to mind:

Dad lighting some candles for me.
 
My Dad made every one of his 46 years count. I'm going to make every year of mine count, too. I'm not going to look back on 29 and be sad that it's gone, I'm going to look back on 29 and be inspired to do even greater things at 30 and beyond.
 
Today, I will start drafting my 30 before 30 list. Not a bucket list like I've made in the past, because I feel like sometimes that can be an illusion that lets me think I have all the time in the world and encourages me to say "oh, I can do that tomorrow". I want a list that kicks me in the ass every morning and reminds me that I'm lucky to be here and need to make the most of the rest of my time here, regardless of the length of it... just like my Dad did.
 
Do you have a list of things you'd like to do in your life? What's on it? I gotta tell you... I'm excited! :)
 
 

69 comments:

  1. I turned 29 this past summer and I was like pump the brakes....30 is right around the corner. I am kinda excited about turning 30 though. I feel like every year I have a little more money to actually take care of myself and eye creams are essential oh and a Clarisonic. Time is really flying by..pause button no?

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  2. you are not the only one that doesn't have their shit together. granted you are almost 4 years older than me. what are you waiting for ;)

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  3. I turned 30 this year and it isn't so bad :) Looking forward to seeing what you put on your list!!

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  4. i'm 38 so basically, my life is nearly half over!

    you'll find that as you get older, the things you once found to be major stressors in your life suddenly aren't and you can truly sit back and enjoy what you have NOW instead of always wanting/seeking more. i think the older you get, the more content you get because basically, you have no more fucks to give! that's the key to a happy life: only caring about the real stuff that you should care for. everything else is just fluff.

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  5. Wow i love that quote, it made me feel better about being 29 this year too. We should embrace it instead of worry about getting old. You just inspired me to finish my 30 before 30 list, or at least update it and push myself more.

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    1. I've stopped thinking of 30 as old. Earlier this year, I was dreading it! However, I'm really realizing 30 just means you're not a kid anymore but enough of an adult for people to take you a little more seriously. lol.

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  6. Hmmm so thanks for this kick in the ass. I turn 30 this year and have shied way from 30 Before 30 lists because I feel older than a lot of other bloggers who seem to have more time. But I LOVE the idea of your list - not necessarily huge, lofty goals that take time and money to achieve, but things that make it worth getting out of bed in the morning and might motivate you to give purpose to an otherwise ordinary day. I may have to work on my own little list. Thanks, girl!

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    1. A 30 before 30 list does tend to make 29 a little more fun! It is also a way to help make your days something other than hum drum (which I tend to get stuck in from time to time).

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  7. If you haven't checked out my "Life by 30" list, you should (http://www.karilife.com/p/life-by-30-project.html). Maybe it'll give you some inspiration? Some of the things on mine are kinda nutty, but I'm of the mindset that you should have 10 realistic goals, 10 within-reach-but-may-take-some-work goals and 10 fantastic goals. While I haven't gotten as cracking on it as I wanted to, I have plans to in the next 6 months before 30 becomes my reality. I think you'll find 29 is probably one of the greatest of your life (at least it has been for me).

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  8. I turn 29 this year too and I made a 30 before 30 list about a year ago. I love looking at other people's lists to get ideas. If you just google it, you'll see so many. I wrote this post when I starting drafting mine if you need additional inspiration. http://www.insertclassyhere.com/2012/08/i-love-lists.html Good luck!!

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  9. I'll be 29 in august and I'm kind of excited, mostly because I'm excited for 30. I feel like I've only gotten better with age. Like I'm more comfortable with me, and my life and all that jazz. I feel you on making it count...maybe I'll draft my own list not 30 before 30 though. That's too much pressure!!! ;-P

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  10. Loved this post and I love that quote/reminder. Growing old is hard and I feel you on sometimes feel like I keep getting older and I'm somehow getting left behind/not accomplishing as much as everyone else. But it's SO true, growing old is really a blessing-- because it's another year of life and knowledge and shared memories with people you love. I can't wait to see what's on your list!

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  11. My mom passed at 49 and I remember thinking to myself, "She didn't even make it to 50. She didn't get her milestone." So yes, it is a privileged to grow older. Although, when I'm 90, in a shit ton of pain and I can't do things for myself, if my kids want to pull the plug on me they can go right ahead! I'm not all about the pain that comes with age.

    I totally need to do a 30 before 30 list!

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  12. I turned 29 last November and it's already February. It's definitely not slowing down and I'll be 30 in just a few months! I'm very excited to see your 30 before 30 list, you know I love lists like that!

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  13. I turned 30 last year. I was dreading it all the way up until my birthday. Then I realized...I don't feel any different than I did when I was about 24. Except that maybe my bones crack a little when I get out of bed and maybe I have some fine lines around my eyes. Whatever. You are right, you have to enjoy your life NOW. I have a 40 by 40 list on my blog tab that is a work in progress.

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  14. I love your attitude! I think that feeling left behind and looking at your age in terms of where you thought you'd be is very common. I feel that a lot!

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  15. This made me feel so much better about the quarter life crisis I'm going through! I heard you realllllly find out who you are in your 30s so I'm actually looking forward to that! :)

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  16. I have a list. Some years it gets added to or changed, some years a lot of things get crossed off, some years nothing. But I'm always conscious of it!

    I never understand when people bitch about getting older. It is a privilege denied to many.

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  17. I love this post! I used to hate getting older but, along the same lines as what you talked about with your dad, I embrace each birthday. It's a reminder to me that I still have my health and cancer hasn't reared its ugly head again. I'm thankful for each year. I do still get sad, simply because when my birthday rolls around, I realize how quickly the past year went by and it makes me sad to know my life is passing by so quickly. I'm happy to see you're taking the same approach to cherishing each year :)
    I turned 29 in November and wanted to make a 30 Before 30 list but didn't know where to start. I have a bucket list so what makes that different than this, other than I have one year to complete it all. Are they small things? Big things? I think about some of the things I'd like to do and they involve my family, Nick, or friends back home. But living so far away makes accomplishing some of those things much harder. And with Nick, well, we're pretty certain he'll be deploying this year. I wanted a huge party thrown for my 30th but odds are I won't know where on this earth Nick is :( But I've started dropping hints to him that IF he is here, I need a big party. I've never had a real birthday party since my birthday is always within days of Thanksgiving...it just gets lumped into that celebration, and thus, becomes not a big deal. So....drop some hints to Pete. He has a list "1 On Amanda's 30"....he has ONE task...to throw you a kick ass party on your birthday!!!

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  18. ugh I am right behind you!! I turn the big 2-9 mid march!!

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  19. Love this post. And that quote is perfect.

    I feel "old" a lot. My bday just passed and I was all grumpy about gaining another year. But you're right: just gotta focus on making every day worthwhile :-) This really inspired me today, so thank you for that!!

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  20. Oh you crazy girls!!! I feel like the Grande Dame here at forty fucking three but let me tell you, your 30's are really all of your shit starts to happen so sit back and get ready to enjoy it. And do live every day like your Dad did. The craziest thing about your 40's is that people you age actually start dying... kind of gives you some perspective! Don't sweat it!!

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  21. This is a fantastic post Amanda. "I want a list that kicks me in the ass every morning and reminds me that I'm lucky to be here and need to make the most of the rest of my time here" - I love it!! I know you will do it!!

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  22. Such a great post Amanda! I love the sound of the way you are going to write the list! It totally sucks that times seems to fly faster and faster as the years go by. Makes it so much more important to live for the now and not the future.

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  23. No list here although I think I'm going to make a summer bucket list, there is so much here I haven't seen or done I need a list to motivate me.

    Once you're past 30 you don't even remember how old you are anymore, I have to get a calculator to figure it out sometimes. :)

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  24. I love that your dad is inspiring you to live life to the fullest. We are lucky and should remember it! Can't wait to see your 30 Before 30!

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  25. I love seeing memories and all of people who have lost a loved one. and i know he will be with you on that special day.

    i know i wish i had done more than i did before I turned 30. just never could due to my situation

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  26. This is a great idea! I used to love getting older, I was over the moon excited for no longer being a teenager. That cooled after my 22nd birthday though.

    I have a 30 before 30 list and I totally see what you mean about needing one to kick you in the butt. I made mine "reach for the stars"-ish to be a motivator and then left it since I had 7 years to do it. I need to get back on that! Can't wait to see what's on yours :)

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  27. I would love to see what you put on your list. I am basically old so I don't make lists anymore I just rock everyday that I can! ;)

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  28. I can't wait to see your list! I am about to have a nervous breakdown with my 25 birthday coming up I better make a list to keep me on track to living life to the fullest!

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  29. 29 isn't so bad! Neither is 30. I recommend planning something completely over the top for 30 so you actually look forward to it. I vote Vegas. I'll meet you there!

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  30. i like the idea of living your life right now to the fullest. a list of the things you would love to do is awesome but also just living out everyday- hell yes!

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  31. I just turned 28 last month and hot damn do I feel old. I have a 30 before 30 list ... it's a list of little things I want to learn or accomplish, like driving a stick shift or re-opening my Etsy shop. I'm looking forward to reading your list my dear! xo

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  32. Oh... to be 29 again :) I freaked out at 25 myself. So did my step daughter. Its OK - its a girl thing.
    I can't wait to see your list. Make it count for EVERY age :) (& I'll steal it & do it myself at the OLD age of 42 ... btw, I just couldn't remember if I was 41 or 42. Had to do math to figure it out. THERE'S old age for you :)

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  33. My husband's dad was 46 when he died too. Or around there. I was surprised since he was pretty young to have a heart attack :/

    Anyway, my list is basically to travel more.

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  34. I think I pretty much completed all my big bucket list items before I turned 30, except for some travel stuff. The one thing I never did to was bungee jump, but I'm okay with that one. I did sky dive, which was amazing. I remember learning that I was too old to ever be on the Real World and for some reason that made me super sad. :-(

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  35. I can not wait to read your 30 before 30 list. I know it's going to be wild fucking turkeys!!!

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  36. LOVE the idea behind your list... I have one too and I really like it! Can't wait to see what you put on yours.

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  37. This is so great!! I'm shocked that I'll be turning 22 soon, where did all that time go??? You're right about making each year count! Can't wait to see your list :)

    Yasmeen x
    http://themirroraffects.blogspot.co.uk

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  38. We don't know how much time we have, so it's a good plan to use every single day!! I have a 22 while 22 list I'm currently working on...

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  39. i love the idea of 30 before 30. I also love that your dad made all his days count, living for the moment is something I've been struggling with BIG time lately. I find myself constantly waiting for the weekend or our house to close or this or that and i'm missing all this little stuff in between. Thanks for this reminder, Amanda.

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  40. The best people ever have birthdays in March :)

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  41. I did a 25 by 25 this year! I've yet to follow through on any except drink more wine and join a book club. 2 out of 25 ain't so bad!

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  42. What an exciting and refreshing approach to your 29th year and into your 30th. In my 30's I felt more like an adult. I was traveling, seeing this great country, enjoying life.

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  43. I like what you said about how a bucket list makes it seem like you have all of the time in the world, but a 30 before 30 list will kick you in the ass. That's so true. You made me want to start one!

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  44. You and I have so much in common my dear. Things that I wish we didn't but that make me realize that for some reason you were put into my life, even if it's through sweet comments on my blog. I feel like each year I get more and more excited about what the new year of my life will bring. Parts of growing up I suppose. hehe YAY for your 29th year of a beautiful life.

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  45. I forget how old I am all the time. I was just reminded last month but i'll forget again in a little while.

    There's a lot I want to accomplish before 30.. i just don't know what those things are yet.

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  46. Great post! I've been working on a 30 by 30 list as well the past couple of months. I turn 29 on May 1st. I can't believe I'm almost 30.

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  47. As your elder you must listen to me. Your 30's will be absolutely amazing! They will without be the years you finally get to know yourself. Make your list and leave your 20's in the dust :)

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  48. Looking forward to seeing your list! If it helps, you definitely don't look like you are going to be 30 soon :)

    agirlandhersparkles.blogspot.com

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  49. i cried when i turned 30, but honestly the 30s have been my best decade ever.

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  50. Awwww advance happy birthday to you gorgeous! And you don't look like you are turning 29. You look like you're in your early 20's. I will be turning 30 this year.

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  51. You think 29 is scary?! Wait until you're knocking on 30's door. TALK ABOUT A MELTDOWN

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  52. I'm turning 29 in April and FREAKING out. After 30 I'm done counting.

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  53. Excited to see your list (if you choose to share it in blogland)!! Get it girl!

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  54. Oh look, I'm not dead. Who knew! Anyway, you must share said list. I'd make one for my birthday that's a week and a half a way but I did that once and didn't do a damn thing.

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  55. While I was never really one to "dread" getting older, I wasn't in any hurry to get out of my teens. Then, before I knew it, I was in my twenties and could legally drink! Awesome! Woo! Love it! Now I'm days away from being 24 and while I'm in no hurry to get older, I've learned to just embrace it. I lost a lot of friends growing up and learned early it is a privilege to grow old. With every year, we gain new life experiences and wisdom (even though we already know everything, duh). I've been enjoying my twenties but I've read that 30s are a time where you feel most confident in who you are as a person and what you want out of life. I'm interested to see how I develop as a woman in the next ten years so you know what? Bring it.

    Can't wait to read your 30 by 30 list!

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  56. Okay, I totally agree with you on the 25 year meltdown. It was so strange because I found turning 25 hard, but yet 26, 27, and even 28 was a breeze!! I do think that 29 might be a little tough, though.
    I love your attitude towards your next year, though! Whenever someone complains about turning another year older, my mom always says, "I'm just so thankful that I made it to another year". A little deep, but a lot true!

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  57. I saw that quote the other day, and it is so true! I've always tried to tell myself that age is just a number :) I'll be 25 this year, and I guess I get to look forward to cheaper insurance? Yay?

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  58. Maymay, "the secret to life is enjoying the passage of time." Find peace in your aging, you're beautiful healthy and kind!

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  59. I can't wait to read your list! I am right behind you, I will be TwentyfuckingNine in July! This is like our last year of our 20s. It goes by way too fast, your quote is a great one!!

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  60. Can't wait to see your list! Happy almost birthday! :) I think that quote is amazing, and I am going to definitely remember it!-Ashley

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  61. I was the same with the "scary" ages (mine was 25). I will be 32 in May and your 30s really aren't that bad! I certainly don't feel old!

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  62. Aww! This is so nice. You should add to your list "do something that truly makes me happy every single day," and you can choose exactly what that is each day, whether eating a bowl of ice cream or going for a run or something big or small. Just at least one thing that makes you smile

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  63. This post made me cry.. I can't really explain why. Maybe it's because you mentioned your Dad and I feel like I have some kind of "link/bond/connection" with you on that note--- I appreciate that you want to make things count.. Growing up is scary but 30 isn't too bad. In April, I will turn 34 and it isn't so bad. My fiance just turned 32 and I've heard 500+ times that he's turned so old, etc etc-- he/we haven't turned so old.. we've gained a year. We've gained a year of experiences to learn from and grow from. We AREN'T one year closer to death or meeting our maker-- we have just made more memories and things to look back on a grow from. I wish that more people could look at life/aging like that-- at least until they make it to it their 40s because when I get there.. I'll start bitching and proclaiming other shit. XO

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  64. Holy crap, I'll be 28 this year so I'm right behind you! And for the sake of not being a douche, I'm not going to plug a post I did a few years back when I turned 26 - but basically I posted that it was my 27th birthday, when in reality it was only my 26th. So for the whole year that I was 25, I thought I was 26. Seriously, who does that?

    I'm definitely looking forward to reading your lists! Can't wait to see what you come up with so I can steal some of your ideas and add them to mine. Lol.

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  65. I really wanted to do a thirty before thirty list, but since I'll be 29 next month I'm trying to put together a 100 in 1001 days list. Luckily I'm not around family or new people to ask me about my dating life or I'm sure that would drive me nuts!

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  66. Life is short... One should enjoy each and every moment of life to make it worthwhile.

    Geetika | geetikawalia.wordpress.com

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  67. Turning 29 was both fun and hard for me. My dad always joked that he was forever 29, and all my siblings had finally passed him in age. I always wanted to have a little birthday celebration with him to celebrate us both being 29, but he passed away 2 years ago just a few months before my 29th birthday. I like to think that we'll be 29 together in heaven one day :) but on top of coming to the realization that it was my last year in my 20's, entering my 30's last year wasn't as bad as I thought. Now, I turn 31 on March 20th and something about being another year older than 30 bothers me more! Can I just pretend I'm turning 21 again? ;) How old were you when your dad passed? I love that he left that passion to live life to the fullest in you! My dad was much the same way!
    Eva Marie

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