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Thursday, February 6, 2014

"Ask me again when I'm getting married...!"

If I had a nickel for every time someone has asked me when Pete and I are going to get married, we could throw a wedding that would put Kim Kardashian's 2nd one to shame and the favors would be briefcases full of money.
 
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To me, it's the single (but attached) person's equivalent to married couples being asked when they're going to start having kids. I know that everyone means well, but, it's annoying. Like, REALLY annoying. When someone asks me when I'm going to get a ring on my finger, another finger comes to mind...
 
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Not that I feel like we need to explain ourselves to anyone BUT...
 
We're not really "traditional." We don't want kids so it's not like there's a biological clock ticking in the back of our minds. We also already live together... if you waited until you were married to cohabitate, more power to ya - but, we didn't want to so that's not an incentive for us.
 
Shit is expensive! Even "cheap" weddings aren't really cheap. We've even considered eloping (another example of our untraditionalism - #madeupword) but that's expensive, too! Could we go to the county courthouse? Sure. We just don't have the desire or feel the need to do that at this point.
 
We want to get married and it's something that we're working towards. Not being able to do it right away is stressful enough already, without adding unnecessary pressure from outside of our relationship. So, next time you think about asking myself or anyone else when they're going to get married... don't.
 
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What's something you get constantly asked that annoys the shit out of you?
 
Are you joining Danae and I next Tuesday for Round 2 of Shit Men Say?! The turnout was awesome the first time around and it was seriously so.much.fun! to read everyone's entries... I've been counting the days to the next one ever since!
 
 
 
 
 

75 comments:

  1. I used to get asked that, and then it was the "when are you having kids" after we got married. After I told people I had a miscarriage no one asked again. Blessing in disguise. I no longer feel the need to get married again and I've determined I dont want kids so whats the rush?

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  2. I get asked a lot when we are going to have another kid. It's pretty annoying!

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  3. ugh i get that all the time too. more so, "when are you having a baby?" from his mom all.the.time.
    and my sister is always asking about me getting married because she wants to wear a pretty dress, so that's adorable. she can ask all she wants. i feel bad for Robert because everyone puts pressure on him and we're like uhhhhh we're broke! between a ring and then a wedding.... and a wedding that is gonna be 3000 miles away (so many trips back and forth planning).... SO EXPENSIVE! there was a point where i was in a rush and started planning and then i was like "yea fuck this, let's just chill". we already live together, wtf is a piece of paper from the government really gonna do different?

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  4. No worries clearly not sleeping yet doing some blog stalking and I'm so glad I got to read this. Mark and I have been engaged since Dec and if one more person asks me when the date is.....I will use every single one of your gifs to respond to them. Even "cheap" weddings aren't cheap....we are trying to take our time and not find a place that doesn't have a 18k food and beverage minimum....I'm sorry did I read that right....oh and the butlers passing the Hors d'oeuvre are an additional $150 per butler....are you kidding me? Can we just like have a big pot luck and every one can bring their crock pots? I know people are just trying to be friendly and polite but like when I get some news I promise I'll tell yah k? Thanks!

    ~Amanda
    Meet @ the Barre

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  5. John and I get asked that all the dang time! I can't even begin to list the names of people who ask us every single time they see us. It definitely gets really frustrating! Mainly because I want to get married so damn bad but we can't afford it right now. We have so much other stuff on our plates that it is going to have to wait. John and I started living together before we were officially a couple :) We also found out I was pregnant four months after we got together.. so I would say we aren't very traditional either.

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  6. Scott and I are constantly being asking why we don't have any kids yet/when are we going to start. People saying that we better hurry up or it'll be too late. They don't really care or stop to think if we want kids or not or if maybe we have can't have any. Only that we should have already popped one out already. It is a constant annoyance for us so I can totally see were you are coming from with the wedding questions.

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  7. D and I have been married for 6 years (together for over 9 years) and we ALWAYS get the "so when are we going to have little babies running around?" ARE DOGS NOT GOOD ENOUGH?!?!

    Before the babies, it was when are you guys going to get married? Is marriage in the future?

    I mean jeez, give us a break. We have things planned out and places we want to go. Can we just enjoy life!!!!

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  8. First off, I can't wait until the link up because Rob has been throwing up some grand slams as far as bullshit goes. Secondly-- I'm working in the DJ & Photo Booth business which caters to Brides and Grooms.. I hear so much crap about weddings and living together prior to getting married.. not referencing such things at the wedding, etc etc. At this day and age, who really is traditional anymore? I'm not and coming from a family that is pretty old school, non-traditional is OK! Thank GOD no one asks me when I'm going to get married and have a child because they know good and damned well I will follow that question up with something along the lines of.. "yeah, pretty much almost did that-- the kid died, the fiance/dad left me and I'm still paying off the bills.. wanna help out or continue crossing lines?"

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  9. Seriously marriage is not the end all be all. Really it's just a piece of paper, and it's the commitment that counts. And if you already have that, well then take whatever time you guys want to do a ceremony.

    As for me, we are eloping (vegas or one of the hawaiian islands), maybe some really close friends and family, but I sure as shit am not spending the kind of money my friends dropped on their weddings. I have expensive outfits to buy for my dogs, after all.

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  10. People are annoying, even if they don't mean to be. Im lucky that no one really bugs me about having kids. I've been asked a few times, but a lot of people in my life are not traditional and kind of don't care haha.

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  11. Eventually you just throw in the towel, throw a party for everyone else that leaves you broke and permanently never getting free drinks at a bar again, and call all your single friends crying about being an old fart. So basically, nothing changes anyway. :)

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  12. We never really got asked when we were getting married, but since we have we get the "when are you having kids" quite a lot. Which is obviously always fantastic to hear when having the problems we're having. Not that most people know that, but it's still a damn rude question to ask anyway... Why must people stick their noses in to private business?!

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  13. I never got asked when I was getting married. Possibly because at the age of 19 I sprung the news on my family that I was getting married 9 weeks from the date I told them. Doesn't give them a lot of time to get hazy about the information. They sure asked plenty of other questions though...
    On the other hand, my Mom has sent us a pacifier in the mail. I figure people will always ask questions, that's the nature of people. Honestly, it doesn't bother me to be asked when we're having a baby, because I have a good answer. I just look at Angel awkwardly and say, "Ummm, probably not today."
    My parents had 7 kids and they just always got the question "when are you going to have more??" So the questions never stop. Might as well embrace the cycle. I would start teasing my little sister about marriage for the fun of it...but I probably shouldn't.....

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  14. I find it so refreshing to be here in Iceland because no one would dare ask you when you were planning on getting married. In fact most people here don't ever get married, just are together for their entire lives and that is good enough. I love this country!

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  15. People use to ask Michael and me this question all the time. We had been together for a 5 years but we wanted to make sure we were settled and had money saved before we took the plunge. I am with you on the living together. It was the best thing for us. I know everyone is different but I'm pretty sure I would have died if we hadn't worked that all about before coming home from a honeymoon. And I need that gif for when people ask about babies. :)

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  16. Ha, you are a cool lady. Everytime someone asks me when my bf and I are getting married I tell my bf to remind him. He finally got ma enough to tell me to stop. Good thing he already knew how annoying I was before he fell for my crazy butt ha :-P


    Big Apple, Little Bites

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  17. I am asked about kids constantly and told that I'm "next" all the time. I am the sole controller of my uterus, thanks.

    We wanted to sell our house last spring and never even listed it but now everyone is all "When are you moving? Where?" and I'm all, do you want to fork over most of your savings for a down payment and deal with the stress of buying AND selling? No, I didn't think so, so leave me alone!

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  18. Isnt it amazing how bold some people feel like its ok to be? Now I say allot of shit under my breath, but that is just for me to hear. When I started to lose weight and people actually started noticing, I would get asked, why are you losing weight???? REALLY why am I losing weight? Come on people, your right I should continue to eat to my hearts content and blow up into a Umpa Loompa. I mean do I want to be healthy, live to see my girls become women, grow old with my husband? Yea I guess, more importantly I want to look good naked! That's going to the top of my resume once I get there....A hard worker and looks great naked....lol

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  19. Don't do it! Don't get married! Weddings steal your soul! And your money! And your sanity! Kidding. Sort of. Ok after 2/22 I'll be kidding. Right now I'm so not kidding.
    If it's something you two are on the same page about then by all means, what exactly is the hurry? If you were waiting around for years and wanted to get married and he just wasn't into it, or vice versa, then you've got an issue.

    I dated my first boyfriend for 9 years who kept saying "someday". Yeah. I'm glad I got tired of someday, because now, looking back, we were so wrong for each other. We are still friends and that is all we ever should have been. I also got tired of hearing the "when are you two finally getting married" questions, which hurt even more when it's not your call and you'd like to know the answer to that, as well.

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  20. Amen, girl! Even Ryan and my teeny tiny wedding was over $6k. That's insane! I know people who've spent $35k+. Really?! For one day?! Crazy sauce. Regardless…it's yours and your boyfriend's choice…who the eft else cares? :D

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  21. OMG I hate when people ask me this. I'm also all for eloping. I have been in enough weddings to know I don't want one, and if I do have one (David doesn't want to elope), it will be tiny, laid back, and completely untraditional (made up word). Why do people think it's ok to ask that question? Especially in front of your boyfriend? It makes things so uncomfortable and awkward.

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  22. Oh lordy- I know the feeling. Doug and I were together for almost 6 years before we got married. And we attended 7 weddings the year before we got engaged and at EVERY. SINGLE. ONE...."When's your turn?? You should be next!"

    And guess what- it happened when we were ready for it to happen!

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  23. my boo and I have lived in sin together for three years now, we get asked that like every damn day!! not everyone needs to get married! I also hate calling him my boyfriend because it sounds so casual, but i tried partner a few times and it sounded like i was a lesbian haah

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  24. oh, i have lots to contribute to this convo.

    first it was "are you going to marry a chinese man? why not? you are chinese, he should be chinese too" (this was coming from my aunts and uncles, not my parents because my parents are cool like that).

    then it turned into "when are you getting married? you've been together for five years. you should get married now. you're not getting any younger". STFU and mind yo' bidness!

    then it turned into "when are you having kids? you're 30-whatever. if you don't have kids now, it'll be hard later".

    and now that i have kayla, it's "have another. why not? she'll be lonely. you should have at least two. doesn't she want a brother or sister? isn't that selfish?" NO MOTHERFUCKER, IT'S NOT SELFISH. HOW ABOUT YOU BIRTH A BROTHER OR SISTER OUT OF YOUR VAGINA, COME LIVE WITH ME AND RAISE THIS BABY AND CONTRIBUTE TO THE HELLA EXPENSIVENESS OF IT ALL AND NOT SLEEP FOR EONS AND BREASTFEED UNTIL YOUR NIPPLES FALL OFF AND YOUR VAGINA IS ALL BENT OUT OF SHAPE FROM PUSHING OUT A HUMAN OUT OF A HOLE THAT HAS NO BUSINESS BEING STRETCHED THAT BIG? NO? THEN STFU AND MIND YOUR GODDAMN BUSINESS.

    -kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  25. We were together for eight years before we got engaged. I was really fucking rude to people who asked me that question because none of your fucking business.

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  26. Hey quick question--when are you and Pete getting married?

    I'm sorry you made that way too easy for me. :)

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  27. I think you're absolutely right on all of this. Just like it's rude for people to always be asking married couples about babies, it's pretty rude to ask about marriage too. Go on wich yo bad self and your undtraditionalism!! ;)

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  28. You already are committed to each other, when or if you decide to get married should be your choice. Just point and I will take care of these people for you! ;)

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  29. I'm with you! Everyone has their own reasons and timeline and you don't know what is happening behind closed doors. People just need to back off!

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  30. Ugh. I also like 'when are you going to have another one?' in reference to children. Like...the first one was traumatic enough thanks! Sorry folks are pressuring you. Don't let the bastards get ya down!

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  31. I don't really see the big deal to getting married anyways.. you love each and are committed to being with each other so whats the paper have to do with anything.

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  32. marriage is overrated. well not really but i see no rush. que sera sera. get over it people!

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  33. But like really, when are you getting married?!?! (JUST KIDDING!!!)

    I FUCKING hate when people ask me when we are going to start having kids. First of all, we don't plan to. Second, it is none of your DAMN business. Third of all, being around your kids is why we don't want them. Is what I want to say.

    I mean really. You don't have to have kids. It is a choice. Some people say I am selfish for saying we may not have any. Why? Isnt it more selfish to have kids just to have them and be shitty parents?! I have enough on my plate working a full time job, being married, having two dogs and keeping up with my own shit. Maybe I don't want to add anything to that mix. Maybe I like my marriage the way it is now, and don't need a kid to "make it work better." We are happy with each other and feel fulfilled just as is.

    What happens if I couldn't have kids. How shitty do you think I would feel being asked that all the time? People have NO right to ask such questions like that. They have no clue how it makes someone feel.

    You don't have to be married to be in a great, loving relationship. At the end of the day it is JUST a piece of paper that says you are. Chris and I got married, just the two of us with an ordained non-denominational minister at Oak Mountain. The only thing we paid for was 30 minutes of that guys time to marry house. Our photographer friends took the pictures so we would have memories of our special day. No fuss. It was wonderful. Were people upset that they didn't get to come to some fancy wedding? I suppose. But, that day was about us and our love and nothing else.

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  34. OMG I can so relate to this post. Although my fiancee and I are now getting married...we've been together for 8 years. You can imagine how many times I've had to deal with people asking that very same question. Now...we're not even married yet and we're getting asked about kids. We want kids...but people need to slow their damn role and shut their traps! Yeesh!!

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  35. I'm never getting married! When people ask that's just exactly what I tell them too, I don't have to do things the traditional way or any other way but my way. I think nontraditionalism really gets under the skin of a majority of people, I think it's great and I'm all for it!

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  36. Oh, the next question is "When are you going to have kids?"... then when you get to my age, it becomes "How many kids do you have?"... to someone who never had any, I want to say/do all the things you mentioned. I put on the fakest smile ever ... instead of flipping them off.

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  37. I hear ya! Thanks for understanding because, yes, "Are you having more children?" is the question I don't care to hear or answer any more! (The answer is no!)

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  38. Shit is expensive. Do you, I won't ask if you won't ask about my uterus ;)

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  39. I hated that question, too! Mostly because I wanted to get married but didn't have any control over the timing. "No, I don't know when we're going to get engaged, if I did, then all the fun would be gone." So, my rule is that I only ask that question to the closest of friends who frequently talk about their relationship progression with me. And, usually, I let them bring it up.

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  40. People were asking us that question when we were only 21 and 22! Once, I got asked "So how many kids do y'all have?" I know we're Mexican but that doesn't mean I automatically started birthing children at 18. We are SO young and have so many things we are trying to accomplish as individuals before we do all that business, one of them getting rich (aka not broke) so we can even afford to have a wedding! Shit. I particularly like the middle finger gif because that's what I want to do every time someone asks. I'm 23. Give me a break.

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  41. It drives me bonkers. John and I haven't even been together a full year, are you kidding me?! I don't care how long we've known each other, that's not the point. And, we don't even want to get married we're content just the way we are. His mom though, every. single. time. And keeps mentioning how her mom had her when she was 29, and how she had John's sister when she was 29. yes, I'm 29. I get your hint. ENOUGH.

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  42. You know what's so frustrating about those questions? Some things are private and even though those questions are asked in jest, sometimes they're hurtful. I've been trying to get pregnant for a very long time and only one person knows that -- my husband. People who ask when we're having kids really hurt my feelings because I respect them too much to tell them the truth and make them feel like an asshole.

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  43. I hate when people are nosy about that kind of thing. Some people don't want to get married or to have kids- I always say more power to ya for knowing what you want! Some people just can't understand that! Weddings are expensive.... I tried to cut every corner and still spent 10 grand!

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  44. ahhh so annoying! we're planning our wedding now and the amount it's going to cost (for a pretty small wedding) is stressing me out. plus we've lived together for nearly 4 years soooo really nothing will even change once we're married. there really isn't a reason to rush it if you guys don't want to. it's personal to everyone so I wonder why people get so damn nosy ha.
    -- jackie - jade and oak

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  45. Next is when are you having kids? NEVER that's when! :)

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  46. Before getting married I had a friend who used to pester my husband (then boyfriend) anytime we got together about when we were going to get engaged, we knew she meant well but it was slightly ridiculous! I find it frustrating when other people care so much about what you're doing with YOUR life, it's like don't you have your own things to worry about???

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  47. I was at an engagement party; the host of the engagement party turned to me, in front of everyone, pointed to her ring and said, "Alex, when are you going to catch up?" Stfu! I'm so tired of being asked why we're not engaged yet! EVERY time I run into someone I haven't seen in a while, they ask how Andrew is and then follow up with, "So why aren't you guys engaged yet?"

    We're not engaged yet because 1. We live together. We're pretty much married already. 2. Rings are expensive. 3. We'll get engaged when everyone stops asking us to get engaged.

    Gah.

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  48. Amen, girl! I remember when we were asked "when are you guys getting married?" Then we got married and it was "when are you guys having kids?" Then we popped out a couple of boys now it's "are you going to try for a girl?" or "how many more kids are you going to have (with a snarky tone of voice)?" It never flippin stops.

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  49. OMG--YES. I'm in this boat and while I do want to get married, I have an anxiety attack when I start to think of how much FREAKIN money it costs. Like you guys, we already live together, don't want kids any time soon, etc. so it's really obnoxious when people ask!

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  50. D and I were asked SO many times when we were getting married and we only "officially" dated for a little less than a year. I'm not looking forward to the "when are you having kids" questions because, well, I'm not sure I'll be able to give a nice answer. We've made it abundantly clear that we're going to wait for at least 3 years. And wedding expenses....oh. my. goodness! I seriously have mini heart attacks every time we book something for the wedding. I got my wedding dress on clearance...$800! And we haven't even had it altered yet. I can't. I just can't.

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  51. bwahahaha!! I love that GIF!!
    Here's the thing. If you *did* get married you would still get harassed. My husband and I were married six years before we had kids (we thought we might not have them, but then we decided to do it).
    Anyway...ALL we heard ALL the time was "When are you going to have a baby?" It was NON STOP!! It's just as annoying.

    It's nobody's business. I know people mean well. They are just trying to show you they care...blah, blah, blah. but BUTT OUT! We'll get married...or have kids...or buy a house...or do WHATEVER if we damn well fell like it and maybe not ever. The end. ---Lisa

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  52. Definitely getting asked when we are going to have kids is pretty annoying. You feel like everyone is watching for any telling sign. Nothing happening in there people besides my Taco Time ;)
    xo TJ

    http://www.hislittlelady.com

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  53. preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it! preach it!

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  54. Can certainly relate! It is really never ending. I just got married in August and of course as soon as that task is checked off everyone starts in on the child conversation. Of course for me I say "oh, we are not planning on that" and then they give me a weird look and who knows what direction that conversation will take after that bomb :) it varies. I also got asked a lot when I got married at 33, if this was my first marriage (it was) but is that really anyone's business? We did a super simple wedding...because we are selfish and took a 2-week honeymoon. I had been through enough weddings (as a friend/bridesmaid) at that point to know I did not want the stress nor did I have or want to spend the money on it. We went to the courthouse (P's parents, my brother, and a friend). I am really glad my friend decided to come and take pictures...whatever you do get someone to do pictures (I wasn't going to). The next day we hosted a (20 person) dinner at a place we could BYOB and then we went to Europe for almost 2 weeks. It was perfect. Just do what feels like you, and don't let other people's expectations get in the way of that.

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  55. I don't know why everyone always feels the need to stick their noses in other's people business. If y'all are content with where you are, then what's the big deal? I've been single for a while (let's not go into that...haha) and I get asked constantly when I'm going to settle down or get serious about dating. Um, how about when I feel like it?!

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  56. I hate when people ask rude questions. Grr. I'm married but we had a small, cheap wedding. I can't fathom spending a bunch of money on one day.

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  57. Girl I feel your pain !!! We got married in March of 2013 but before that I had a super annoying guy I went to high school always ask me via freaking facebook "when are you and your boyfriend getting married " "has he asked you yet" "oh you want him to ask you huh?" Seriously it drove me freaking insane I had to block his ass lol What people ask us now is when are you having baby number two?? don't get me wrong I'd love another baby but when its time for us ya know !!

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  58. Usually when we're gonna have kids, which is fucking rude since I've had 2 cocking ectopic pregnancies and nearly stiffed it with the second one. Last time someone asked me I said 'Cats. We're going to have cats.' Wait till we tell em hubby is having a vasectomy. Bwahahahaha.

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  59. GOD I HATE PEOPLE! In what world is it okay to butt into peoples business?! I get this all the goddamn time, but it's all baby related and we can make up excuses. I don't know what I'd do in your situation other than rip someones head off so they never ask again. Maybe you can respond "we'll get married as soon as we have an extra 50k (or whatever) laying around." And then ask if they'd like to sponsor your wedding. Money talks so hopefully that shuts them up. I feel your pain, girl. I want to suckerpunch people for you.

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  60. Hahah I love this. "When someone asks me when I'm going to get a ring on my finger, another finger comes to mind..." So great. I'm engaged so I can't say that I get this annoying question all the time, but I have several friends that have been in relationships for 6 or 7 years and are in no rush to get married for their own reasons and HATE getting this question. I'm sure that I will start being harassed about when we are going to have a baby like the second we get married. Can't wait.

    Ashley, Married to the Game

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  61. I'm at the phase right now where I'm CONSTANTLY getting the when are you going to have kids thing. I mean, even from strangers. It started right after I got married. I would welcome the days when it was just when are you going to get married, even though that is annoying too.

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  62. People are constantly saying to me... "I can't believe some great guy hasn't snapped you up now that you are divorced" or "I can't believe your not seeing anyone". Hey eff u comes to mind. Take your time. You will know when it's the right time and place for you:)

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  63. I am constantly asked when Brian and I are getting married, meanwhile Brian never ever gets asked, and he's the one who is supposed to be doing the asking. What's up with that?!

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  64. i get asked that all the time and i have no one lol. forget my college degrees, forget my my travels around the world, forget my accomplishments. apparently none of that matters, hehe.asdfghjk

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  65. UGH - THE WORST. I've been engaged since October and maybe this makes me the worst female alive but only my close friends and family know. (and now you - woo!) Because I don't want all the "When is the date? Have you found a dress? I know a great photographer!" Blah blah blah.

    We're waiting a few years to get married b/c like you said - that shit is expensive! And neither of us is going anywhere, we know we're going to be together, so what is the big rush?

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  66. It is expensive! Mine started out small and i fell into the trap and now its big. No Bueno! If i can go back i might just do city hall. Part of me though feels like i will regret it so i stick with the wedding lol.

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  67. It is to the point that josh and I dread going to weddings because the entire time we have to explain that we have no desire to get married young or waste money when we are starting to get our life together. Going into debut the minute we graduated college was not on our to do list! Also having to explain that we don't want children to every person that we meet is annoying to. I want to be like have you met josh or I are you really surprised we don't want kids, you should be thanking us for not putting a kid through that lol

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  68. My annoying thing is "So when are you going to be on American Idol or The Voice?" - Um pretty sure I have an audition on the day after never, right before jury duty is awesome, and just after hell freezes over. STFU already. It's a hobby. the end. Rock on for untraditionalism or whatever you made up. I'm looking forward to eventually getting married, but I'm not up for any pressure. Bitches be crazy and should just worry about their own lives lol

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  69. OMFG I am all here with you! Michael and I have been together almost 9 years and I'm so effing sick of it! The worst is after we hit about 6-7 years people starting just assuming I was mad about it. "Are you like totally pissed you aren't engaged yet?" No, back off, I could wait another 5 years.
    So glad to know there are others in my boat!
    Kallie @ But First Coffee

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  70. I feel sorry for people who ask the when are you getting married/having kids question. They're defined by those things and have nothing else to talk about. I get being proud of your marriage or your children, but let that be your thing. Don't assume it's for everyone.

    Hugs and just keep doing your thing Amanda :)

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  71. Seriously, what the eff is wrong with people?! My husband and I were together for five years before we got married, and I feel like I spent four of those explaining to people why we weren't married yet!! I don't know why the hell people feel the need to constantly ask people about this particular issue, but it's so fucking annoying!! Hang in there girl. People suck. ;-)

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  72. People are just nosy. We would get asked over and over when we were going to have kids and it was a sensitive subject because we were struggling for over 2 years to get pregnant so to be asked that was annoying to have to explain. Now we get, "so are you going to have more kids?" question since Stella is already 3.5 when in fact, we have been hoping to get pregnant for the last 6 months. Some people have good intentions but really need to think before they speak!
    Eva Marie

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  73. Oh lord I get this question ALL THE TIME!! It's between me and him, not me, him and the nosey people in my life!

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  74. I feel as though people should mind their own business! If y'all are happy with y'alls relationship it is nobody else's business or place to judge if THEY don't think the way y'all are living is right! Tell them to stick it where the sun doesn't shine :)

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  75. Okay, so I might be slightly blog stalking all your old posts now. Don't judge me. But I agree with this 100%. I actually don't want a wedding. While I do believe in commitment, I just don't think the paper or ceremony is necessary. But I'm still constantly get asked when I'm getting married and popping out mini-mes (which I also don't want).

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