If I had a nickel for every time someone has asked me when Pete and I are going to get married, we could throw a wedding that would put Kim Kardashian's 2nd one to shame and the favors would be briefcases full of money.
To me, it's the single (but attached) person's equivalent to married couples being asked when they're going to start having kids. I know that everyone means well, but, it's annoying. Like, REALLY annoying. When someone asks me when I'm going to get a ring on my finger, another finger comes to mind...
Not that I feel like we need to explain ourselves to anyone BUT...
We're not really "traditional." We don't want kids so it's not like there's a biological clock ticking in the back of our minds. We also already live together... if you waited until you were married to cohabitate, more power to ya - but, we didn't want to so that's not an incentive for us.
Shit is expensive! Even "cheap" weddings aren't really cheap. We've even considered eloping (another example of our untraditionalism - #madeupword) but that's expensive, too! Could we go to the county courthouse? Sure. We just don't have the desire or feel the need to do that at this point.
We want to get married and it's something that we're working towards. Not being able to do it right away is stressful enough already, without adding unnecessary pressure from outside of our relationship. So, next time you think about asking myself or anyone else when they're going to get married... don't.
What's something you get constantly asked that annoys the shit out of you?
Are you joining Danae and I next Tuesday for Round 2 of Shit Men Say?! The turnout was awesome the first time around and it was seriously so.much.fun! to read everyone's entries... I've been counting the days to the next one ever since!